Life Looks Different From Here


Could we change our attitude, we should not only see life differently, but life itself would come to be different.

-Katherine Mansfield-

I absolutely love it when real life around me provides great examples of how our mind works and the obstacles, or even miracles, it can produce.  Sometimes these experiences are worth sharing with you.  I have a story to tell you now.

I was recently traveling and while enjoying lunch I overheard the young couple sitting next to me having an interesting conversation.  The young man asks the lovely lady, “did you do something to your hair?”  To which she responds, ” like three weeks ago.”  The young man put his head down and exclaims. “I’m sorry.”

I could see in his body language and hear in his voice that he was deeply disappointed for having missed something so important, he missed an opportunity to show the love of his life that he was paying attention to her.  He came back with something like, “it’s just that I’m always looking at your beautiful eyes!”  He then quickly followed up with, “I guess I didn’t notice until now.”

I’m not sure if our young hero was able to save the day with his confessions, or if he spent the remainder of the day in the dog house, but there is a lesson for us all here.

I took special note when he said,”I guess I didn’t notice until now.”  I think that they both missed it.  It wasn’t that he didn’t care or wasn’t paying attention to her.  If at that moment he noticed then he was paying attention,  but today something was different. Something made him aware at that moment that had not made him aware before.  His perspective changed!  Maybe it was the way the sunlight came in from the windows, maybe it was the lighting in the room, or maybe it was that he looked at her sitting there across from him just a little bit longer than usual.  Perhaps it was a combination of all three, but something changed, and he noticed, and he said something.  Good job!

We tend to walk through life not noticing the good things that are begging for our attention, we walk right past opportunities to change our lives and find fulfillment, we feel as if we can never catch a break.  Could it be that all we have to do is change our perspective?  Modify the way that we look at life?  Maybe what we’re afraid of isn’t so bad after all?  Maybe a little extra effort would pay off big time?

Could it be that there’s good in what we fear or deem as something we wouldn’t do, within reason of course?  Changing perspective, like most things that make our lives better, isn’t easy.  It takes conscious thought and effort to stop our immediate fear based reactions and do something differently.

Someone once said that the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things and expecting different results.  If you’re looking for a different result in your life, then it’s time to do some things, or look at some things, differently.

Tino Hernandez

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