Dream Weaver

Dreams are like…we all have one.


Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.

-Marilyn Vos Savant-

Have you considered the cost of change?

I’ve heard it before, and I’ve been guilty of saying it myself, “I’m going to…”  -Insert big dream here-

We dream about the awesome person that we’re going to become “someday” and share it with the world.  “One of these days!”

So often we look to change something about ourselves, then we run smack into a brick wall. No sooner have we started our journey into our new self that we’re done, we give up, defeated.


Someone once said that talk is cheap, and it is!  We can afford to talk about dreams all day long because it literally costs us nothing but time and expended calories to move our mouth and spew out the words.  We bore our friends and family and talk ourselves into complacency, all the while feeling great about ourselves because we have “dreams.” Ooh.

What we fail to take into account is that the self-preservation part of our brains is not so quickly going to let us do the hard work that it’s going to take to “change” our circumstances and ourselves.

So what about you?

Your little “I don’t give a hoot about your dreams” self-preserving part of your brain is going to do everything it can to stop you and your crazy ideas for change.  Change in dangerous, you know!

So, what’s the answer? In a nutshell, and that’s about all the room we have here today, change is about overcoming your self-preserving instinct to keep everything as it is.

You see, we tend to sabotage our own growth because subconsciously we know that change will have a cost to it. That cost is more than our tiny little self-preserving pea-sized brain is willing to pay.

You need to sit down, consider the cost, write it down, deal with it, then move into your new reality. I know, easier said than done.  But it is the only way to real change.

If you sincerely, with all of your being, want this change in order to reach that dream…this is the hard work that you must do.  That we all must do.

Tino Hernandez

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  • Marilyn Vos Savant is an author and playwright, she also holds the title of having the highest IQ…ever.
  • Don’t think that I don’t struggle with the little pea-brain trying to rule my thoughts and emotions too.  Just knowing that it’s there, and what it’s function is, can help us win the battle over this well-meaning part of our anatomy.  Science calls it the Amygdala.